*Le Bebe

Oh Bebe... how I used to be in love with you.... when I was in Highschool. Back then I would get something out of Bebe at least once a week. I even worked there for a few months.

ehh... logo, logo, logo...I never was a big fan of logo, but I will admit that I did have some logo shirts. They weren't for dressing up tho, they where for days when I wanted to look "good" without really trying. Now a days, I dont remermber the last time that I've ever bought anything from Bebe. Not knocking those who wear Bebe, they have some cute stuff, but the WAY that they are wearing Bebe is the problem.

When Bebe launched in 1976 they had an idea of a the "Bebe woman." On their website this woman is described as "sexy, asertive and stylish.... confident and cutting edge"

Ok... with that being said what the fuck is this Bebe epidemic that has been going on ever since the first trailor trash/ghetto girl walked into Bebe and said "ooh, dats caaayute"

My problem is this, I dont understand what the OBSESSION with Bebe logo is. I swear I see a girl with a bebe logo shirt on everytime I go out. I hate when Im out a club or anykind of dressy/casul function and I see a girl in her "BEBE" shirt, jeans/shorts/skirt and heels. Since when did logo become something you go out in? I mean im not gonna fake and act like this is the first time ive ever seen it... but seriously, Ive been seeing it since I started going out senior year, and it hasnt stopped yet. I will say i saw at least 10 girls in logo when i went out Saturday, and I wanted to scream everytime I saw it. I just dont understand, WHY WHY WHYYYYY !!

And while I get sooooo excited when I see one of these people in somethign other than logo...my other problem is this... bitch you know that you are a size 8/10... so WHY IN THE FUCK are you trying on a Small which you know equals like... a 4. Don't worry.... I'll wait.

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I hope you have an answer to give me, but im sorry... there is NO EXCUSE. First of all, everyone knows that Bebe runs small... but even if it didnt, why did u think a small would fit you, when you normally wear a large? dont worry, i'll wait...

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Right. No answer. Then some of you people try on this too little dress, and seeing that the seams are about to rip, the fabric is pulling, and your ass and tits have been mashed in entirely too much, you STILL BUY THIS DRESS AND WEAR IT....

IN PUBLIC!!!

chiiiile... I just really dont understand. Women, if you are going to wear bebe, please wear it so that it does not "look" like bebe. please do not wear logo when you are going out. and please please plllleeease wear a dress that actually fits you. You arent doing anyone a favor by wearing a dress that is entirely too small for you.

This isnt just a problem with Bebe clothes, this is a problem with all mall brands everywhere. Come on ladies... please get it together.... if not for yourself, do it for all of the people who have to see you when you go out in public. You are slowly killing us.

x___x

further from your dreams*

another no intro post. This one means a lot to me because I can relate all to well...

Lesson 37:

go balls out

All of us are handed different situations each day. Some of the we take by the horns, other shy away from, and then there are the ones that we flat out miss. The reason that we do these things are: were confident in success, we're nervous, or we are taking a risk.


These situations can be anything from school, sports, relationships, friendships, theatre, etc*


Recently I was given a situation, and instead of jumping on it 100%, I was nervous and gave it 75... I can honestly say that this is one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made in my life. I often look back on everything I did wrong, and wonder "Why didn't I just go all in?", "What was I so scared of?" and "Why did I assume this was going to be like the past?". All of these are questions that are hard for me to answer, because unfortunately the answer is "IDK". But then I wonder, how don't I know why I didn't give this my all? Now I feel like the biggest idiot in the world, and I would do any and everything to go back and change things.


If this happens, sometimes there are things you can do to fix the situation::

Once the opportunity is no longer that, but a reality... GO ALL OUT. Go above and beyond and beyond to show them that this is really what you want. Why should you do this? Because you shouldn't want to half do it both times. This could have completely passed you by, but you still succeeded in getting what you wanted. Don't drop the ball twice*

Sometimes the opportunity is gone and there is nothing you can do but blame yourself::

While the easiest thing to do is mope and cry, the best thing to do is take it as a lesson. Trust me, the hardest thing is knowing that you have missed out on something that you wanted so so bad, and knowing that once its gone... its gone. Take this as a lesson, so that you never make the same mistake again. The next time that there is something that you want don't make the same mistake twice. And if by some strand of luck you get your opportunity back and it's still what you want TAKE IT.

But to Rewind:: what happened?
Did you lead them on?

Did you tell them that you were ready even though you were hesitant? Big mistake #1- Honest Is The Best Policy. You should have been completely honest and let them know how scared you were. Let them know about a similar situation and how scared you are of the circumstances repeating themselves. Yall could have talked everything over, and then you would know that this time was going to be different. What you have to remember is that everyone is not the same, and everyone is not just out for their personal gain.

Did you leave them dry?

When the opportunity was handed to you did you just not say anything? When they would ask you about your decision making process did you just blow it off? Well why did you think that they were gonna stay around if you kept blowing them off? Don't run away and hide when your not sure about something. If its something that you really want, you should be able to talk to someone [if not them] about the situation. Not all outside opinions are good ones, but that may just show you how much you do in fact want this.

The best thing to do is to be completely honest. If you are weighing other options, let that be known. If you are terrified, let that be known. If you're not sure what you want, let that be known. With any doubts, thoughts or feelings that you have LET THEM BE KNOWN. If the response you get isn't what you want, then you know that this is not opportunity for you. But if they take you with open arms and talk to you about your fears then what's stopping you?


When there is something that you really want, no matter what it is, how hard it is to obtain, or how scared you are; jump on the reigns and go balls out. If things don't go the way you planned you can always say "At least I gave it my all". The worst feeling is "I wish I would have gone harder/given it my all".


The reason I started this whole blog in the first place was to voice my opinion on certain topics, and hopefully help someone learn from my mistakes. This is my biggest regret and I hope that if someone is on the fence about something, that you don't make the same mistake as me. I've been crying while writing this, because I wish I would have done these things. I should have talked about all of my concerns, my worries and my fears. If I would have done this I would have known that everything was going to be OK. I have no one to blame but myself, and I don't know what to do to fix the situation. The scary thing is, there may be nothing I can do to fix it [the same applies for your situation].


So where do you go from here? The opportunity is lost, your a wreck, and you want nothing more than to get this back. You just KNOW deep in your heart that this was yours, and you will stop at nothing to get it back. As crazy as it sounds, the thing you need to do is chill. Yes, maybe the opportunity is supposed to be yours, but maybe its just not your time for it. While moping is the easiest thing to do [and something that I've been doing] thats not going to bring the opportunity back. Work on yourself inside and out, so that if/when the opportunity comes back you are ready for it. And if it comes back- it's going to be better than ever*

anything can happen with Magic*,

Monroe.

a lesson from Brook Lynne Carter*

You guys all know how much I love the blog Lost in Brook Lynne...so, while I was blogging this morning I came across a post that I think everyone needs to read. While this post is about her personal battles, you could easily take the word [stripper] out and [insert] what it is you do. And while no one wants to admit it, there is a person who YOU don't like.... but your friends with them on twitter/myspace/facebook/downelink [or any of these other sites] and you go to their profile every once and a while [or more for you other people] and you creep.. we all creep.. and if you say you don't i say [bs].... how else do you know what they are doing with their pathetic life... but at the end of the day [who is more pathetic?]

ponder that for the day, and enjoy the post.

Lesson 34:

Why are you so obsessed with me?

i get an AMAZING amount of support from a lot of people, whom iv never had the pleasure of meeting, and probably never will. i get emails daily as well as comments on my blog and/or tweets from people who tune into my aimless journaling-which i never thought would be read by so many people, giving me kudos and just general encouragement. i am forever grateful and thankful for peoples open minds, which i am not trying to change, just enlighten.

on the flip side..when does a natural interest turn into a daily habit, and then a guilty pleasure, and eventually turning into an obsession? when do we start having control over the urge to be fixated on something that we later feel guilty for indulging in? or controlling the obsession of being destructive or malice. not to say that the people who SUPPORT me are obsessed at all..but i am speaking of the people who indirectly support me with their anonymous foot traffic on my blog, leaving comments that are more like attacks, rather than "differences" in opinion.

Passion is a positive obsession. Obsession is a negativepassion.

the internet (the NEW home of the brave) has become a cowards playground. a place where anyone can assume an identity and feel free to release anything that internally disturbs them without having the retribution of argument, or looking miserable or angry. unfortunately my blog has fallen victim to unhappy people who's guilty pleasure, being my blog, has turned into some kind of phantom fetish-which allows people who dislike strippers, strip clubs etc, to vent via my site about how disgusting and awful it is that i dance, without disclosing their identity OR ever having to convey this to me face to face. and i can always respect an opinion and/or a belief, religious or not, what i can not understand is the freak obsession that comes with being "anti-brook". if you dislike what i do, which leads you to dislike me, why do you tune in? why do you subject yourself to a lifestyle that infuriates you so much that you leave nasty comments of judgement?

while most people would call this "hate" or my "hater(s)", i disagree. i do not think this is hate. i think that this is borderline stalking. to pursue someone, indirect or not..daily, or consistently, even in a negative way, is to stalk them and/or prey on them. stalking is a crime of passion. not hate. and god bless anyone who finds enough time in their day to feel passionate about someone they dont even know. when does this turn into an obsession? when you feel moved to actually comment..with anonymity, trying to get some kind of response from the person that you have been paying attention to..secretly. you tell a friend about this stripper who has the nerve to not be ashamed. your mad. i evoke emotion in you. the person whom site you wont leave alone. that means your obsessed. dont let my site dominate your day, its ridiculous to support me with negativity, it will just empower me.

i personally do not indulge in anything or anyone that turns me off. so it is beyond me why people put in the effort of fake twitter pages/myspace pages, negative comments left by the ghosting anonymous obsessors. it almost seems like it would drain the life out of you to put so much energy into something-that by no means, has anything to do with you. i have nothing but empathy for the people who have brought so much negativity to my blog because they are either unhappy or too afraid to have their own opinion. as you can see, i am the opposite. i back my opinion and my choice to strip, everyday-with a blog, a face, and no apologies. and your STILL mad.

my passion is not stripping, it is writing. and i write about whatever i want, including but not limited to strip. dont let your passion turn into something that attacks another. disagreeing with what i do just puts you in the masses, your not alone, and that in no way offends, moves, or scares me. so why be afraid to be who you are, when there are so many like you. trust me, it takes a lot more courage for me to be who i am, with so many against me. those who take shots, and then hide their hands, are weaker than me, so i wont pick on you. please turn the channel, im a stripper, lol, and honestly i do not think that i or anyone else can stop someone elses raging intensity. the only cure for obsession, is to find another one. so, for all the folks who like to be anonymous aggressors on social networks, you may want to redirect your anger and hug it out with your parents. some how, along the way, some l-ve is greatly missing. thank you to all supporters, those who openly appreciate me and the closeted ones as well, who only come out to be negative. judging me so much, leave less time to l-ve me. :o]

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."-- Wayne Dyer

to twitter is to love,

Monroe.

A Lesson from Prof. Sosa

WOW !! So, i havent updated in FOREVER !!

ive been busy doing nothing !! i know i know, but thats y i havent had very many posts... lookin for some inspiration... BUT, while i was looking i ran across this guy named Tony or Professor Sosa... and he has agreed to let me share some of his thoughts with you... so about once a week i'm going to post a story by him, which will help me get stuff out about 2x a week. So heres the first post by Professor Sosa

Lesson 31:

Why you gotta hate mayne?

HATING: (hay-ting) - verb. - 1. the act of disliking another man (or woman) because he/she has something that you are after but you CAN NOT obtain OR have DIFFICULTY obtaining...
2. when one puts down the success or fortunes of another man due to JEALOUSY

IN MY OPINION...
HATING is at an ALL TIME HIGH! GONE are the DAYS where most NIGGAS will give you PROPS for doin something big or achieving something that they COULDN'T accomplish...

AND SADLY...
MOST HATERS DONT EVEN KNOW THAT THEY ARE HATERS!!!

SO ... I present to the WORLD a CHECKLIST of most of the HATER ACTS that many men have to SUFFER with, sometimes on a DAILY BASIS...

1. IF you are "talking" to a girl and feel the need to mention another man's name that you have seen her with, chances are ... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e. "So what's up wit you and TONY??")

2. IF you feel the need to use another man's name to approach a female... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e., I WOULD try to holla at you, but TONY may not like that...")

EVEN WORSE...

3. if you feel the need to speak to a nigga AND talk about him to a female.... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e. TONY cool and all, but I heard he was burning??)

4. if you find yourself telling females, "You let him hit, why I cant hit??" ... YOU ARE A HATER...
(*She won't let you HIT cuz YOU a HATER...!)

IF you suffer from ANY OF these... you sir, may just be a hater...

SO I TELL YOU THIS...
If a girl REALLY wants to have sex with you... she will EVENTUALLY, REGARDLESS of who her "friends" may be... "HATING" on the next man, will not give you any advantage over him... Clearly, he's doin something right and "hitting some spots" that YOU may not be able to touch... Wait your time young grasshopper, in due time you will find yourself some...

MY ADVICE TO YOU...

CUT IT OUT! DROP THAT BS!! WE SICK OF IT!! You think it's cool...but I SWEAR IT AINT! Putting down another man and his fortunes, WILL NOT gain you any. Step your game up, polish your pimpin, and you may soon find you "some"....


-Professor Sosa

If you guys have anything that you want me or Tony to write about hit me in an email :: talesofmonroe@aim.com or twitter me:: twitter.com/morganmonroe

love.peace.&&hair grease,

Monroe.

Friendemies*

Whats goody B'ham?! i had a great time at Penthouse last night.. i actually missed yall... l0l

anywho... i wrote this blog on the plane ride home yesterday.. but i didnt have time to post [obviously]... enjoy.

Lesson 29:

Who needs friends like these, who needs enemies?

Soo, this has been a very interesting week to say the least. I’ve learned a lot about myself and people who I considered “friends”.

Most people would go around talkin about the other parties involved… and normally that’s exactly what I would be doing too. This time was different thou. I didn’t have the urge to go around telling everyone what happened, in fact, when some people asked me about the situation I was just told them that I didn’t know what they were talkin about it.

It has also made me realize, that u can be 100% genuine with some people, and they will still stab you in the back. But you can fake like you like someone and they will be on you and HARD !! Oh well.. it just goes to show you that you can’t be nice to everyone… sometimes you just have to grab your cohonas [l0l] and be a man about it. As Shawty Lo would say “Ima broke hoes dream, rich hoes cream”

This summer has taught me not to be so judgmental too. I have heard sooo much more things this summer, than I did when I was a freshman. I didn’t think that the change was going to be that drastic, but it was almost like a 180. It’s crazy how much more respect you get at Hampton for not being a freshman.

It also amazes me how much bs people say about others, not caring whether it’s true or not. I can’t even begin to tell you how much ridiculous studd I’ve heard about myself, and people around me... things that aint true in no way, shape or form !! But at the same time… if you’re not being talked about, you aint doin summ right. On that same note tho, when you hear that someone is talkin about you, don’t let it just sit on the back burner… if its someone you're cool with don’t hold it in ( trust me, ive made this mistakes too many times)… say something to them. Its better to go ahead and get it out, so you can either get over it, or drop em. And Ladies…. Ladies, ladies, ladies… please don’t fight. It’s not cute, and no one is laughing with u but ur friends… cuz in the back of everyones mind they like… “look at these dumb girls…” [[brow raise]]. Cuz lets be real, how many beautiful, successful , educated women fight… its cool, I’ll wait for ur answer.

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exactly, there are none.... moving on

I follow this lady’s blog… she’s a stripper ay Magic City in ATL… her name is “Brook Lynn Carter”. Her blog is absolutebrook.com. I “l-ove” her. She keeps it real, and has helped me look at myself when it comes to things. She has blogs on everything… and I love her blog hard body. She has shown me that just because some one’s a stripper , doesn’t mean that they aren’t normal people. She’s just as much a woman as anyone else… so what if she takes off her clothes for money… that’s her money, and if u have a problem with how she getting it, stop throwin it... [break]

Over all tho, this summer was bomb. I had a lot of fun, met some cool people, and dropped some not so cool people. So as I sit here on my plane home to B’ham I feel accomplished. Everything that I wanted to happen this summer did, and now the fall is going to be on point*

I should have more time to blog when I’m home, I hope us southern girls don’t bore you with our adventures!! l0l . Hopefully im goin out tonight [I did... l0l] … so you guys make have something to look forward too [you do]. Bye guys, love you. Don’t forget to twitta a nigga. =]

So high in the sky,

Monroe.

ps:: sorry ive been making all these rambling post lately... im trying to keep it as raw as i can... without going back and re-editing... im just kinda writing what/how i feel when i feel it. Lemme knw when it gets to bad tho... then ill try to help a lil... l0l. love you guys. =]

fakeness is weakness

So, i know you guys are tired about me bs with the posting service. Im about to try really hard to start posting at least twice a week. It's not that things are slow, its just that... i find that I don't have that much to write about at the moment. The summer isn't as interesting as I thought it would be... don't get me wrong I'm having fun... but I don't just wanna post any bs up here.

sooo, now that I got that out of the way on to the post

Lesson 27:

don't be a fake girl

So, why as girls are we mad at all of the other girls that the guy /girl that we date used to talk to/date/screw. Not like mad, like you want to fight her... it's just when you see her you feel some type of way. The sad part is, every girl that reads this is going to deny this, because you never want to admit that you think she is better than you for any reason, it's that one fact that she was doin lord knows what with him before you did. It makes you feel gross, especially if you have heard some stories about her from him. You may tell a sly little joke to your friends, you may not even acknowledge her presence to anyone, you guys may nod heads, or you may be really nice to her and hold a conversation . Because when you see her, you want your girls to know that thats the mad "old" girl, you are embarrassed that thats his old girl, everyone knows the story and you guys want to show respect, or you want people to think that you don't have a problem with her, in-fact you love her! - but on the inside your dying.

Or what about that girl who was talkin to your guy while you where? Maybe she was there was a lil while and dipped... or maybe she is the reason that you two arent talkin anymore. No matter who she is, no matter how nice she is, her rankings, her status... anything. Shes the biggest slut, the dumbest girl, the nasty hoe who had the nerve to impose on your man. When you see her you feel crazy. Either you talk about her so much that you surprise yourself, maybe you just don't say anything, or maybe you are just really nice to her. Because when you see her, you either want people to know that you hate her, or you want people to think that you don't care about her, even tho your soooo mad on the inside.

All of these actions happen everyday. However, its those girls who are all up in your face that are the worse. --- My thing is like this, if you don't like me why in the hell are you speaking to me? And its not like everyone around doesn't know the deal, and they wanna know why you are speaking too. I've dealt with a few of these girls before, some are more intense than others.... but they are all annoying.

There are some who are even worse than the ones who just speak. Its the girl that be on your nuts on the internet. I think that the internet is worse because even more people can see it going on. You add them as a friend to be nice because you do know who they are, but you don't expect them to be writing on your wall and commenting on all of your stuff. Don't you hate getting a notification and seein that its that girl... You be like, WTF does she have to say to me now? "Cut Pic girl !!" you just wanna be like chick die !! l0l

What about the girl who tries to be your best friend all of a sudden. So now not only are they speaking all of the time and commenting on everything, now they start texting you... and writing on your wall saying how happy she is that you guys are friends and that you should hang out... GIRL I D0NT WANT TO HANG 0UT WITH YOU !! i dont even want you speaking to me !! haha.

The sad thing is there is not much you can do with these girls. I mean yeah, of course you can tell them to chill cuz you really don't like them like that... and why that would be the easiest solution, most girls are not going to do that. Why? Cuz we want to be polite. The thing is, if more of us did this... we wouldn't have to worry about dealing with all of the annoying bs, and the sly jokes from the guy. So as girls, lets take more initiative and just be straight up about things when it comes to other girls...

I'll try first... i'll tell you how it goes*

Bling.Blow.Bling.Blow,

Monroe.

Its not your beauty, its yo booty

SOOO... if you know me well, you know that one of my biggest pet peeves are people talking to their past exs/love flings/cutty buddys friends.... Didnt catch that? i'll explain.

Susie and Jonny messed around/talked for 3 months. Susie and Jonny stop talking. Susie and Jonny stop messing around. Susie wants someone new. Susie starts talking to Bobby. Susie starts messing around with Bobby. [The Catch] Bobby and Jonny are best friends

Lesson 25:
Its not your beauty, its yo booty*

AHH !! Just thinking about this makes me mad. I mean Im not gonna lie, there our exceptions.

• Sometimes it just happens- you cant always help who your attracted to. If you just started hanging out with this group, it may happen... ONCE*



• You may meet this wonderful guy... and then once you start talking, you realize that him and your ex-boo are friends... its ok to talk... SOMETIMES*

My thing is, why would you KNOWINGLY want to mess around with someones friend.. so they can talk about how you fooled around with both of them to all of their other friends?

Whats even worse then that, is when people mess around within the family... thats gross !! and you should CHILLLLL.... l0l*

The reason I'm bringing this up, is because Ive ran into some people lately who have been doing this like its ok... and its not... you saw what they did on Ray J of Love "Danger, she smashed the homies"... I mean... lets be reallll... boys find it funny to talk about stuff like that.

I mean, like I said, there are exceptions.. and people are entitled to mistakes.... but if it happens ONCE, it should NEVER happen again. There are too many guys in the world for you to be stuck on that one group of friends, that one fraternity, that football team, basketball team...etc*

So lady's.. why don't we start treating ourselves like ladies so that these guys can't think they can pass you around his friends. The first time one of their friends approches you, or he tries to put you on, you should let them know asp that its not goin down like that. My friend Mahd Johnson wrote this note on FB and I think that all ladies should read this.... Im closing the blog off like this::

Peace.Love.Sex.

Monroe.

Real Spit if men aint sh*t........

Then women aint fiber.....meaning for yall slow people yall aint helping the SH*T out...you making it worse...

All on my homepage I get statusess and all kindss of stuff talking about how men aint nothing and this bamma came at you wrong and how you wan a real man....Letss be real...yall dont want a real man...and Im gonna tell you why you dont want a real man...CUZ A REAL MAN IS GONNA TREAT YOU HOW YOU WANNA BE TREATED.....real men are simple we dont really play games ...and for real we dont have no game....Games are for players(something like a pimp ,chuuuuuucchh) so thats what you really want...you want somebody to play the games taht you play back with you....and when they dont, you get mad and say men aint sh*t...please...

1. If you degrade your self by saying that you ...ie."the
baddest b**ch" having all this swag or anything related to it..how can you
honestly expect to get a real man. real men want class , not b*(ches with
swag..lol that dont even sound good...how you gonna brag about being a
b**ch with swag...how bout being a lady with class.....

2. If i see a man in a police uniform..im gonna assume he is
a cop...if a see a lady in a h** uniform im gonna assume she is a
h**...simple...so when you go to the club dress like you looking for sex (with
your breast haning out..the clef of your butt peeking under your dress, or
humping the mess out of everting that looks good to you)...guess what you gonna
get a man that just looking for sex....when you put butt shots up or pictures of
you and your friends bending over in front of a camera on the
internet...guess what you gonna get that repsponds to that... a whole bunch of
..."dam girl that butt is phat" or " im trying to see what that be
like"...these are all quotes comeing from brovas who play the game...and when
you respnd back... first thing the bama is thinking is that you easy..and guess
what fool...you are....real talk..sorry to say it..but if it was that easy to
get your attention..dam..i know some bammas that would have you..let me
stop

prime example of the exact opposite of this I would a young lady thats on my friend list im not gonna put her full name but Jasmine J...im just gonna be real.. youngin is probaly one of the most maturist (sp), classiest (sp), and sexiest yougnins I know...real spit I aint never really seen youngin half naked when i have seen her out...or in pictures on facebook...never heard her refer to herself as a b**ch or anything negative, and she keeps her bizness to her self which leads me to...

3. IF YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHICH IS SUCH A GOOD MAN (and
vice versa) WHY IN SAM'S NAME ARE YOU PUTTING YALL BIZNESS ON FACEBOOK. they use
to say dont tell your friends about how good your partner is, cuz they gonna
wanna find out... Yall females of today go past that and tell the whole wide
world how good your man is...and then put pictures up...and tagg him in the
pictures...probaly put his twitter up to..(follow @foyolyfe)...keep your
business to yourself...and if your man was as half as good as yall say he
is...you wouldnt even have time to be on here talking about him...you would be
to busy at least attempting to love him back just as much as he loves
you....Loving your queen is hard work for real men...espcially since most men
are lazy...and if it aint hard work for the man...it means he aint loving you
right or he loving some one else...while you up here talking bout him...he
inboxing some young freak thats reading your status....thinking of all kinds
debauchery...

REAL MEN ARE GONNA TREAT YOU LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. woman created this game...yall are bred and raised to learn how to please and get a man from birth...we when were born we are raised to play in the dirt and pick up bugs and football....then later on after we start to notice girls we pick up on how things ran..yall created this game and you mean to tell me you cant find a man to treat you like a lady..how is that so when woman was playing with doll babies, and dress up, and all this other feminine stuff when they are you young. us men weren't learning pick up lines when we were young..we were dirt monkeys, and girls had cooties...so how is it that yall keep finding men that aint bout nothin ...you know why...take a guess.............................cuz you aint fiber...for all yall slow people...YOU AINT S**T EITHER....STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THE GAME YALL CREATED UNLESS YOU REALLY DOING SOMETHING TO CHANGE IT...TEST SINGLE "mamacita" SHOULD BE UP TOMMOROW IF EVERYTHING GOES RIGHT...MAKE SURE YALL DOWNLOAD SO YALL CAN HEAR SOME REAL MAN WORDS ABOUT WOMAN...

Mamacita

Front Street, Woah

SOOO, as I was reading on of my daily blogs YESTERDAY, I noticed that Bow Wow had made a rather rude comment about what APPEARS to be Kim Kardashian and his ex Ciara... via Necole Bitchie.com from Bow Wows Twitter:

::Fellas, don’t you feel like a G when ya ex and another girl u banged or f*cked around with r now friends? boosts my ego up! like daaaayum ima pimp

::wat makes it funny i dont think she knows! ha! im laughn lol….

This comment was said shortly after this picture was released:

Lesson 22:

This aint cute

Girls hate when you try to put them on blast. If Bow did get Kim, what makes him think that she would be with again if he's tellin all of her business? Girls aren't dumb... we catch a bunch of the lil sly bs that guys try to say when they are around their homeboys. Trust we do the same stuff with our homegirls. But NOONE likes their business put on front street, Now if this isn't about Kim, Bow STILL messed up, because it's no secret that Kim and Ciara have been hanging out lately, and everyone is going to be jumping to conclusions. I'm sure Kim will have something to say about this... since people or wondering. OR, would it be better if she didn't say anything and just let everyone keep guessing?

Monroe.

A wilting flower

Tisk, tisk, tisk..... don't ruin ur friendships people.

Lesson 18:

Not all friendships are like flowers... when they die.. they may just be dead.

A friendship is like a relationship. You spend time with someone and grow close to them hoping it will last. & when it doesn't how do you feel? lost, empty, down, etc. as you should. the problem with people is that they don't know what friendship means. it's more than hanging out with someone. A real friend is honest, they have your best interest at heart, they weep with you when times are hard, and they rejoice with you when times are good. It involves genuine love and trust. If people were to evaluate friendship based on those that, they would realize they have fewer friends than they thought.
people hit it off via facebook, get drunk one time, party together & give each other the label 'besties'. it's sad, really. because then we have those who actually value friendship & get played by people who could careless whether they talk or not. when did heartless become the theme song of people ages 18-25? when did it become cool to not care about anyone but yourself? get yours, look out for yourself, all that jazz...but the reason it's so hard to trust people now a days is because no one cares about anyone but themselves. no one cares about friends, they just care about being kept entertained & not being alone. I know so many cliques, they have a million and one pictures on facebook @ parties laughing and hugging, but in real life they talk about each other like nobodies business. Like they were all just like ‘you know what im rude, and so are you, so lets just be rude together” they left you passed out drunk in ur room & went to a party, but u still call them ur friend? Oh hell no.
I would say the easiest way to spot a bad friend is 1.) how often do they switch friends? 2.) WHO are their friends? If someone cant keep a friend or is always running with other people who stay in drama, that is a major red flag.
Smh ppl love to trip over a significant other they've been with for a few months but not over friendships they've had for years. You let him smash because he paid u a little attention, then he broke your heart, & a year later ur still not over him. but wait, you're the same female that couldn't care less whether or not you talk to your bestfriend you've had your whole life. it's nothing to break off that friendship, but let a man do you wrong...your devastated. when you're truly someone’s friend, you aren't just okay with them being out of your life. it's basically like they died. you don't see them, speak to them,...they're just a memory of some of the happiest times in your life, but now theyre gone
That is so not the way to go. God wants us to put others before ourselves (within reason), humble yourself and love everyone.
The easiest way I have learned to avoid all the drama, is of course to trust nobody, but also, stop putting your faith in people. They will always fail you. Always. God is the only one who will ALWAYS do you right and hold you down. Not saying to shut yourself off from the world, like I said you should love everyone, but don’t attach yourself to someone you barely even know, or better yet know is shady



Wow, Im sure a bunch of ppl at Hampton needed to hear this. Thanks for the story ! Have a similar story? send it in !! talesofmonroe@aim.com

Monroe.

You know what thy say about drunken words...

Yay !! Another submission. I'm sure a few of you can relate to this one. If you have a story you want to submit send it in !! talesofmonroe@aim.com

Lesson 10:

Your not Jamie Fox, so stop trying to blame in on the alcohol

So I always hate when people use being drunk as an excuse for what they did or pretending like they don't remember what they did the next day... but you can remember that I am mad at you?!?! Crazy! I know! anyways... In having a get together at my house on Saturday night my friends and I and some associates were all drinking and having fun. Now I like to keep my personal business personal... so only really close friends know about my relationships/ boo... and barely anything a that! Yes low key! I have well HAD! this one friend who THINKS they are the relationship guru/ master/ know -it - all.... but cant keep a relationship themselves! Funny! yeah! well lately they have been all up in my biz! talking to my boo about whats going on... So i kindly asked her to STOP! Well that was a month before this night! So on this night that I was hosting my get together (at my apartment), she decides to take the person who i talk to aside to talk! I don't mind because note we have all been friends for the last 3-4 years so it is not uncommon for any of us to talk. But i notice her say something about me and i again ask for her NOT to play Dr Phil. Mind you we all had been drinking a lot of wine but its WINE!!! I have been the one to see her pissy drunk plenty of times and let me tell you she is not even close to that point! Anyways she keeps saying little things that i try to blow off because there are a lot of people around... finally i walk out the room and as the guy I talk to is leaving I ask him to tell her to just stop because obviously both of us need to tell her to MYOB because its not working from just me he agrees but says she says she is doing it for me I had to let it be known for good that she is doing it for herself because i never asked her to do anything regarding him and I! So when I go back in ( let me paint a picture of the scene... there are people in the living room on the ouch talking people standing by the counter 2 people in the kitchen and the whole table is full of people) I go to the table and again she asked what i just said to him I kindly turn and say "please stop you are not Dr Phil and I don't need counseling." she then turns and loudly so that everyone in the apartment stops says "I am just helping its not my fault he wants___ (his ex) and is just fucking you on the side" So before I put all her dirty laundry out (oh because she has a couple loads) I removed myself to my room where I childishly called the guy and told him off... yes immature of me to not get his side but your supposed to trust your girls... right?? Too bad she didn't know why he and his ex actually broke up... I did but like I said you trust your girls.... right... Anyways everyone was trying to talk to me but i locked my door... And how dare me walk out 40 minutes later and this chick is still sitting at my table drinking and socializing. I am kind of a passive person because i still said nothing I used the bathroom and went back to y room... yes I know how could the host be in her room crying while people are drinking down her money... I try to stay nice! I did not flip till people tried to invade my space in my room that's when I went off!
So now that you have the detailed story hear this she goes outside my apt "drunk" crying to everyone that I am mad! Stop Please! then text me I am nothing but nice in my response that I just don't want to talk because I would never do that to her so I expect the same treatment the next morning i receive more texts and this time the tone is rude and almost like she is trying to play me! So i stop responding... I have been back home now and recently a friend called telling me she is claiming she was drunk and does not even remember... HA! Please! Lets be grown and start taking responsibility you know because you text me and know wont talk to the guy.... YOU were wrong and you are not Jaimie Foxx so stop blaming it on the alcohol!

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Im sure her friend learned a valuable lesson. She would have been kicked out of the house if it was my call...

Until we meet again,

Monroe.

3

so, i went out saturday night to hang out with my amazing friends, who i havent seen in soo long. our original plans both fell through so we hung out with some oldies but goodies. we left mighty late... really for no reason... soo:

Lesson 3:

know when to say no to your friends

one of our friends convinced us to drive complety out of the way then where we were going. It was 4 in the morning. Instead of putting our foots down and saying no, we said yess. I didnt get home until 6 in the morning... and had to wake up to go to church in the morning. So i know it can be hard.. but when its time to say no.. you have to do it.

sorry this one is so short... but im tired and have to do things tomorrow. There will deff be a post tomorrow. =]

Until we meet again.

Monroe

1 && 2

So, everyone tells me that i should blog... so Im going to start.

I kinda want to use this blog to help people learn from the many, many, MANY mistakes I've made, with guys, girls, drinks, drugs, friends, and school.. sounds interesting right? I thought so. l0l

Freshman year was CRAZY. i talked to a few good guys, and a few bad seeds.

all in all... i can say it was a success. I learned more about myself than I thought I could.

Lesson 1:

If a guy is not you boyfriend; Never hang with a guy more than your friends.

I would always yell at my friends, when they disappeared on our group because of a guy. As soon as I met a guy I really liked, I did the exact same thing. It was the first time I did it, but it was fun.. and I really ended up liking him. Unfortunately the feeling wasn't mutual. I deff liked him more than he liked me. When we stopped talking, I felt weird.. I was bored, cuz i didn't have anywhere to go every night like before.

Lesson 2:

Make sure you and the guy are on the same page/have the same agenda.

I was starting to like him as a boyfriend, but he still saw me as a cool girl who he could chill with, and didn't get on his nerves. Which hurt like hell to find out. So, i guess this break will help me a lot.

Hmm.. i like this blogging thing.. l0l.

Until we meet again...

Monroe.