Wednesday, November 4, 2009
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
one thing ii hate, pretty much on the same level as the devil, is a "closet homo"
you know them guys that can dance to every Beyonce song almost as better than she can but swear up &down they straight...
or them girls that just say some questionable, kinda almost gay sh*t. or they too touchy with you &hug you a lil too long...
or the best one..
the ones that tell you they "bisexual", "but dont tell nobody" because it might shock people. NO, ITS NOT GONNA SHOCK ANYONE CAUSE EVERYBODY ALREADY SPECULATE YOU.
what these closet cases dont understand is that you give off signals. you try so hard to cover yourself that you wind up giving yourself away. its a battle you fighting &losing terribly.
then you are fighting a battle with yourself because you want to be open &able to be yourself around people but instead you have to pretend, front, &be fake in order to keep your secret. its just stupid &all you are doing is driving yourself into depression
THEN YOU GOT THE BISEXUALS...
ii was having a "bi-sexual" double standard convo with my friends the other day....
the conclusion we came up with is, we believe girls can truly be "bi-sexual"
BUT GUYS [no sir]
once you have had a d*ck in your a** or mouth, you are gay nigga-- end of story
ii have heard girls say all the time, "ii would never get with a "bi-sexual" guy"..
[well a high percentage of black males are considered on the DL, so chances are, you've already done it]
NOW THIS BRINGS ME TO THESE DOWN-LOW MEN...which ii am highly disgusted by these people
being on the down-low is not the same as being in the closet. my definition of down-low is the vast majority of the gay world knows you are gay but the straight world does not. &those 2 worlds never mix in your life, so it makes it easier to stay on the down low
FACT: most aids cases in the world are african american females
this is partially because of the down-low men. these guys tend to be reckless when it comes to having sex with guys. that world is like a guilty pleasure to them so they just don't care. ii have heard so many DL guys say "if ii had hiv/aids ii wouldnt tell my partner. imma just keep going with my life doing what ii was doing. its not my fault they didnt ask me to get tested"
HERE ARE TOP TEN SIGNS OF A DOWN-LOW MAN
10. He Likes To "Pretend" To Dance Like A Woman. While a 50 Cent or Jay Z song is on, they on the wall looking mad. But, as soon as Beyonce comes on, he is all over the dance floor poppin' his booty and doing it better than you girl. Yeh, you think he’s playing and trying to make you laugh. But child he’s really not. Besides ladies, you don’t want no man, who be poppin his booty to beyonce. That’s a no no.
9. He's Always With His Best Friend. I mean always together like two females. Always working out together, always on the phone together. And, you as the girlfriend wonder why he spends more time with his best friend than with you. And, as long as he is with you, no one will think that he is gay.
8. He Picks An Argument With You For No Reason. And, then leaves the house for hours. He does this so he has time for the both of you and his down low lover. If your man is always picking arguments with you and leaves the house for hours. If he’s not hiding that he’s gay, he’s hiding something. And, that’s another story, another time, and another place!
7.Look At His Walk. Does your dude walk too, too hard. So hard that it's noticeable. You think if you walk all hard and tough and all, people won't think that you are gay.
6. He's Extremely Secretive. Basically, if you know nothing about your man , it’s because he doesn’t want you to know. He doesn’t want you to know that he is gay, that’s why everything with him is a big secret.
5. He Always Talks About How Chicks Want To Get At Him. But, in reality you never see him with none of the chicks. He's probably just saying them things to make you think he’s straight and to throw you off. In reality, all them chicks he talks about are really men. Okay....
4. He Hits And Beats On Women. I’m sorry, a real man does not hit a woman. But, a down low man will. Now, wait a minute some women do like getting a little roughed up, choked up, a little weave pulling during sex but that’s another story child. I’m talking about those Ike and Tina Turner beatings. He's just trying to prove to the world that he is a heterosexual man. Knowing deep inside he is a big ol queen inside.
3. He's Always Calling Somebody Else Gay. A dude that is just always like "He looks gay. He acts gay. He dresses gay. He walks gay". SHUT UP! You just want him to be gay, so you can have him. Stop calling everyone else gay and call the person who truly is gay and on the down low and that’s you.
2. He Wants To Make Love From Behind. If your man always want to give it to you in your butt every time your have sex, and gets mad when you don’t want to put it in your butt. That’s a sign. Because if your man like poking you in the booty. What makes you think he wouldn’t mind poking a man?
1. He's Homophobic. Is your dude always angry with gay people for no reason. Does he always have something negative to say about gay people. Does every time he see a gay dude, he got to make a comment. He is only saying these things to get the gay boy attention. Because deep inside he wants that gay boy or he wants to be free and happy like him. So he hates on the gay boy, because the gay boy can care less of what folks has to say about him and he’s going to be himself.
A real man will see a gay boy and say nothing
LETS GET IT TOGETHER PEOPLE. THERE ARE ALWAYS PEOPLE IN THE WORLD THAT WONT ACCEPT YOU OR THE LIFESTYLE YOU LIVING. BUT AS LONG AS YOU LIVING YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF &HAVE GOD IN YOUR HEART, THEN EFF THEM PEOPLE. SO DONT FAKE OR HIDE WHO YOU ARE FOR NOBODY
Saturday, September 12, 2009
These situations can be anything from school, sports, relationships, friendships, theatre, etc*
Recently I was given a situation, and instead of jumping on it 100%, I was nervous and gave it 75... I can honestly say that this is one of the biggest mistakes I have ever made in my life. I often look back on everything I did wrong, and wonder "Why didn't I just go all in?", "What was I so scared of?" and "Why did I assume this was going to be like the past?". All of these are questions that are hard for me to answer, because unfortunately the answer is "IDK". But then I wonder, how don't I know why I didn't give this my all? Now I feel like the biggest idiot in the world, and I would do any and everything to go back and change things.
If this happens, sometimes there are things you can do to fix the situation::
Sometimes the opportunity is gone and there is nothing you can do but blame yourself::
But to Rewind:: what happened?
Did you lead them on?
The best thing to do is to be completely honest. If you are weighing other options, let that be known. If you are terrified, let that be known. If you're not sure what you want, let that be known. With any doubts, thoughts or feelings that you have LET THEM BE KNOWN. If the response you get isn't what you want, then you know that this is not opportunity for you. But if they take you with open arms and talk to you about your fears then what's stopping you?
When there is something that you really want, no matter what it is, how hard it is to obtain, or how scared you are; jump on the reigns and go balls out. If things don't go the way you planned you can always say "At least I gave it my all". The worst feeling is "I wish I would have gone harder/given it my all".
The reason I started this whole blog in the first place was to voice my opinion on certain topics, and hopefully help someone learn from my mistakes. This is my biggest regret and I hope that if someone is on the fence about something, that you don't make the same mistake as me. I've been crying while writing this, because I wish I would have done these things. I should have talked about all of my concerns, my worries and my fears. If I would have done this I would have known that everything was going to be OK. I have no one to blame but myself, and I don't know what to do to fix the situation. The scary thing is, there may be nothing I can do to fix it [the same applies for your situation].
So where do you go from here? The opportunity is lost, your a wreck, and you want nothing more than to get this back. You just KNOW deep in your heart that this was yours, and you will stop at nothing to get it back. As crazy as it sounds, the thing you need to do is chill. Yes, maybe the opportunity is supposed to be yours, but maybe its just not your time for it. While moping is the easiest thing to do [and something that I've been doing] thats not going to bring the opportunity back. Work on yourself inside and out, so that if/when the opportunity comes back you are ready for it. And if it comes back- it's going to be better than ever*
Thursday, September 10, 2009
even tho im livid with him posting it on FB before I could post it here, you HU peeps have no clue who he is, so I cant feel too bad. Enjoy the blog, its amazing....
Before I start...
I wanna get something off my chest that we probably all can we relate to:
A FORFE occurs when plans and arrangements are made for you and your “other” and something comes up on their end that results in them not being able to show up. BUT, they don’t let you know anything…
U just wait on them and they never show up...
We too old for that. I understand that things come up and things happen, but you should have the decency to let me know something. I take time out of my day and miss arrangements for you, and you can’t even call and tell him that you can’t fall thru.
(Real talk, I’mma start doin dat in a minute. I'm just gonna stand you up. That way, you know what it feels like next time you decide to get amnesia and don’t call.)
Back to business…
All of us have faced this certain question…
A question that leaves many people in IDK mode…
A question that leaves most men speechless and most women guessing…
WHY IS IT WHEN A DUDE HAS SEX WITH A LOT OF GIRLS, HE IS A PIMP; BUT WHEN A GIRL HAS SEX WITH A LOT OF DUDES, SHE IS A HOE??”
I saw this in my mini-feed on some chick's status earlier this week. I thought about it for a lil minute, and then I called Mary Jane over to get her opinion and this is what we came up with.
(Feel free to agree or disagree. This is only my personal opinion.)
First, I wanna address the male side.
“Why is it okay for dudes to sex a lot of girls!?”
Unfortunately, this is just how society is and the nature of men. Just how females were taught to be ladies, many dudes were taught to be men. However, many of these guys were taught the wrong stuff. Boys go thru their entire life doing what they believe makes them a man. For some, manhood is determined on how many guys they whooped, how much money they made, and of course, how many
What they failed to learn was how to be more of a GENTLEMAN, which is the exact opposite of what they’re trying to become. They failed to learn that GENTLEMAN should understand that there is more to value in females than what her “head game hittin on” and how good her poochie is.
NOW FOR THE FEMALES…
If you were ever called a hoe its probably been because of either 1 or 2 reasons.
1. Whoever called you a hoe probably doesn’t even know anything about you to even call you one in the first place. Many of you may find yourself saying, “But Tony, I don’t do anything! I only had sex with _ dude(s) and I’m a hoe!?” If this applies to you, then the best thing to do is just brush it off and keep going on with your life.
(Understand that people are gonna talk about you regardless of what you’re doing right or wrong. Sadly, some people’s purpose in life is to just hate and talk sh*t to try and bring you down to their level. F*ck em.)
2. You have too much of your personal business on the streets.
If #2 applies to you, let me educate you…
Throughout your life, you have been taught the customs and etiquette of being a “lady.” Since you were in the dayz of training bras, Jellies shoes, and “Ponchanella” clapping games, you were taught the simple do’s and don’ts of being as ladylike as you can be. Little stuff such as not letting a boy pick you up with your skirt on, crossing your ankles when you sit, not spitting/burping/farting in public, etc… made you prone to be more “lady –like”.
Some of you are still working on being the perfect lady. Many of you don’t smoke/drink in public, don’t get drunk in public, or even cuss in public.
...Notice the keyword was PUBLIC...
A big part about being “Lady-Like” that many of you are missing is not having your business out to the PUBLIC.
(An important concept to understand about being a lady is NOT what YOU do, its what others KNOW YOU DO.)
Many of you are forgetting about DISCRETION. You tell all you're messy home girls your personal business and the next day you're on blast. You're not called a hoe for what you’re doing or who you’re doing. Its how you got your private business out to the public.
What I’m saying is,
No one should KNOW you having sex with that many dudes in the first place. Ain't nothing classy about telling about all the ceilings you left your footprints on. Keep your business to yourself and you’ll see a big change in how people look at you.
(Ever heard of that saying, "lady in the street, freak in the bed"?? Many of you are forgetting about the first part...)
Ladies, it really all boils down to who YOU are and what type of guys you're messin with that determines how you are looked at as a hoe. Understand the difference between fake men and true gentlemen. Know that just because you keepin your business on the low, it doesn’t mean that he aint getting p*ssy-happy and tellin all yall’s business to his messy homeboys. Know who you're messin wit.
The moral of the story:
Women, Men, Ladies, Gentlemen, pimps, hoes, and everything else in between:
Thursday, September 3, 2009
Friday, August 28, 2009
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Sooo, i have a very big announcement to make...
[i came out to my mother last night]
as you can imagine i was very nervous about telling her because I have friends who have had very bad experiences. She took is a lot better than i thought... one thing she kept saying was "I don't see you as being gay" and I was like... I'm not gay... I've never seen color or sex... I'm attracted to whomever I'm attracted to. Then of course the "phase" thing came up.. and I explained to her a story that I knew she would remember about this girl I used to be really good friends with and randomly stopped talking to. It was because this was the first girl who I liked... and I thought something was wrong with me, so i distanced myself as far away from her as I could... then there was the dreadful sophomore year of high school [ that petty, simple, retarded people can't forget about ] when I went a lil wild because I was trying to fight my sexuality hard body. I didn't come out to my friends till senior year... but I wish I would have before... but that's beside the point. So yeah... now mommy knows.
MY thing however is other peoples parents... like WHY is it so hard for some people parents to accept the fact? I mean lets be blunt, the majority of the gay people I know act soooo homo !! haha, like why are certain parents in denial.... If I could tell your son/daughter was gay the first time I met them how the hell do you not know and you live with this person?
And then they want to go and act all crazy when they find out. I have one friend who has been through so much with their parents (i wont disclose their sex or name because thats not my place in any way, shape or form... lets call them HC)...anyways HC told their parents that they were gay. The first thing their parents did was kick them out. HC and their parents have probably fell out/been put out/made up a few dozen times... sometimes the situations get even worse ( like police involvement) all because the parents can not accept the fact that this is who their child is.
Another one of my friends..uhhhh...BD... they came out to their parents and they told BD that they were devil spawn or a demon.. i forget which one I also believe that they would blame all of their problems on BD being gay.
Yes these are only 2 stories but if you guys knew as much into these stories as I do it would make you not want to tell your parents anything...
So I ponder... why do parents take it sooo hard when they find out their children are gay? I mean seriously, they would rather hear that their daughter is knocked up and don't know who the daddy is than to find out she's a lady killer... what type of messed up stuff is that?
Im sure all of us have a gay friend (if you don't you have a gay associate cuz ur readin my blog.. l0l) and you love them to death, so why would you not love your gay child. And when we have children who are gay (and lets be real some of us will) lets give them the respect they deserve and not make them feel like a big pile of crap when they are honest with us about their sexuality.. cuz Homos need love too !!
Sunday, August 9, 2009
2. when one puts down the success or fortunes of another man due to JEALOUSY
IN MY OPINION...
HATING is at an ALL TIME HIGH! GONE are the DAYS where most NIGGAS will give you PROPS for doin something big or achieving something that they COULDN'T accomplish...
MOST HATERS DONT EVEN KNOW THAT THEY ARE HATERS!!!
SO ... I present to the WORLD a CHECKLIST of most of the HATER ACTS that many men have to SUFFER with, sometimes on a DAILY BASIS...
1. IF you are "talking" to a girl and feel the need to mention another man's name that you have seen her with, chances are ... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e. "So what's up wit you and TONY??")
2. IF you feel the need to use another man's name to approach a female... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e., I WOULD try to holla at you, but TONY may not like that...")
3. if you feel the need to speak to a nigga AND talk about him to a female.... YOU ARE A HATER...
(i.e. TONY cool and all, but I heard he was burning??)
4. if you find yourself telling females, "You let him hit, why I cant hit??" ... YOU ARE A HATER...
(*She won't let you HIT cuz YOU a HATER...!)
IF you suffer from ANY OF these... you sir, may just be a hater...
SO I TELL YOU THIS...
If a girl REALLY wants to have sex with you... she will EVENTUALLY, REGARDLESS of who her "friends" may be... "HATING" on the next man, will not give you any advantage over him... Clearly, he's doin something right and "hitting some spots" that YOU may not be able to touch... Wait your time young grasshopper, in due time you will find yourself some...
MY ADVICE TO YOU...
CUT IT OUT! DROP THAT BS!! WE SICK OF IT!! You think it's cool...but I SWEAR IT AINT! Putting down another man and his fortunes, WILL NOT gain you any. Step your game up, polish your pimpin, and you may soon find you "some"....
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Sunday, July 26, 2009
Soo, this has been a very interesting week to say the least. I’ve learned a lot about myself and people who I considered “friends”.
Most people would go around talkin about the other parties involved… and normally that’s exactly what I would be doing too. This time was different thou. I didn’t have the urge to go around telling everyone what happened, in fact, when some people asked me about the situation I was just told them that I didn’t know what they were talkin about it.
It has also made me realize, that u can be 100% genuine with some people, and they will still stab you in the back. But you can fake like you like someone and they will be on you and HARD !! Oh well.. it just goes to show you that you can’t be nice to everyone… sometimes you just have to grab your cohonas [l0l] and be a man about it. As Shawty Lo would say “Ima broke hoes dream, rich hoes cream”
This summer has taught me not to be so judgmental too. I have heard sooo much more things this summer, than I did when I was a freshman. I didn’t think that the change was going to be that drastic, but it was almost like a 180. It’s crazy how much more respect you get at Hampton for not being a freshman.
It also amazes me how much bs people say about others, not caring whether it’s true or not. I can’t even begin to tell you how much ridiculous studd I’ve heard about myself, and people around me... things that aint true in no way, shape or form !! But at the same time… if you’re not being talked about, you aint doin summ right. On that same note tho, when you hear that someone is talkin about you, don’t let it just sit on the back burner… if its someone you're cool with don’t hold it in ( trust me, ive made this mistakes too many times)… say something to them. Its better to go ahead and get it out, so you can either get over it, or drop em. And Ladies…. Ladies, ladies, ladies… please don’t fight. It’s not cute, and no one is laughing with u but ur friends… cuz in the back of everyones mind they like… “look at these dumb girls…” [[brow raise]]. Cuz lets be real, how many beautiful, successful , educated women fight… its cool, I’ll wait for ur answer.
exactly, there are none.... moving on
I follow this lady’s blog… she’s a stripper ay Magic City in ATL… her name is “Brook Lynn Carter”. Her blog is absolutebrook.com. I “l-ove” her. She keeps it real, and has helped me look at myself when it comes to things. She has blogs on everything… and I love her blog hard body. She has shown me that just because some one’s a stripper , doesn’t mean that they aren’t normal people. She’s just as much a woman as anyone else… so what if she takes off her clothes for money… that’s her money, and if u have a problem with how she getting it, stop throwin it... [break]
Over all tho, this summer was bomb. I had a lot of fun, met some cool people, and dropped some not so cool people. So as I sit here on my plane home to B’ham I feel accomplished. Everything that I wanted to happen this summer did, and now the fall is going to be on point*
I should have more time to blog when I’m home, I hope us southern girls don’t bore you with our adventures!! l0l . Hopefully im goin out tonight [I did... l0l] … so you guys make have something to look forward too [you do]. Bye guys, love you. Don’t forget to twitta a nigga. =]
So high in the sky,
ps:: sorry ive been making all these rambling post lately... im trying to keep it as raw as i can... without going back and re-editing... im just kinda writing what/how i feel when i feel it. Lemme knw when it gets to bad tho... then ill try to help a lil... l0l. love you guys. =]
Friday, July 17, 2009
Soooo, everyone in college has seen a porn or two. Well my friends were talking about this porno called "Ghetto Gaggers". I had never heard of it before, but they described it to me, and its probably one of the most degrading things in the world.
So now your probably wondering what it is. Well "Ghetto Gaggers" is a pair of white men who go around getting head from black women. Not only are they getting head, but they are like abusing their faces --- I guess its actually the definition of "face f*cking" [for lack of a better word]. The guys shove their cokss sooo hard and sooo far down these girls throats. The majority of these girls end up gagging, some even throw up. And the white guys talk reckless while this is going on. saying things like "take this white cock you black slut" "your such a nasty whore" "you like this white cock?" and other stuff. To make matters even worse, these guys slap and spit on the girls.
I know what you guys are thinking... these girls are porn stars, why does it matter how they get treated. The thing is... this is more than a porn thing...
These guys use this porno as a form of white supremacy.... so this makes me wonder why sooo many people want to do it. I mean come on... you're already a porn star... why add this to your resume?
This just shows that there really are people who have absolutely no respect for themselves. Cuz my thing is this :: WHY, if you KNOW... that these WHITE MEN are targeting BLACK FEMALES so they can BANG THEIR FACES... would you WANT to do this production? In fact... if your approached why would you not be offended? Why would you ever even do it... porn star or not?
I have a point I promise !! haha::
When I see people doing this, it makes me think that women will really do anything to get attention. I shouldn't just say women, because i'm sure if i searched hard enough i could find some pretty degrading stuff men do... but still. No one ever has to stoop down to this level.... There are too many other productive things in life to do... IDK, maybe thats just me.
I really try not to pass judgements on people, but like stuff this just blows me... l0l, get it?
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Monday, July 6, 2009
However, you know there always has to be the crazy girl of the group, and believe me... this one was.... well i'll just tell the story.
CHICK GROW UP--- girls like this make me sick !! She's mad at you because your cool with a guy she likes/want. She's mad at you because ya'll chill without her, and heaven knows what ya'll are doing. Why does she care so much? Don't worry tho, it's not your fault that your a cool, fly girl and people wanna be cool with you.
Girls like this are mad at you for more than just this guy. If it was just about the guy she wouldn't be speaking to you in public because its known. You can't be rude and not speak, or be overly nice and have a 30 minute conversation with her. Just give her a nod as you pass by.
When your hanging out with your friend don't mention her and if ya'll are all together make small talk, I mean lets be real, they are gonna ask her to leave before they make you do it.
These girls are put into the world to make real girls check themselves. Because when your slipping on your game in anyway, they are always gonna be there to fill in that void... WHATEVER IT IS.
When it comes to the guy, watch him. Make sure he's not trying to be messy and make the situation worse. And keep him updated enough so that he doesn't think our trying to be messy.
and try not to talk about this situation to anyone but like 1 close friend.